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How to Say "They're like family" in Italian
Expresses a deep bond, treating friends or colleagues as if they were your own family.
Sono come una famiglia.
SO-noh KOH-meh OO-nah fah-MEE-lyahcasual
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Use this when you feel a strong, affectionate connection to a group of people, like close friends who have known each other for years or a work team that's particularly cohesive. It conveys that they are more than just acquaintances; they are a chosen family.
Alternatives
- Sono come fratelli.Use this if the bond is specifically like that of siblings.
- Ci vogliamo bene come una famiglia.Emphasizes the mutual affection and care within the group.
Ways to get it wrong
Confusing 'come' with 'come si dice'
'Come' means 'like' or 'as', not 'how to say'.
Incorrect article with 'famiglia'
You need the indefinite article 'una' before 'famiglia' here.
A small cultural note
Italians often place a very high value on family, so extending this sentiment to close friends or colleagues is a significant compliment.
When you'd actually say this
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Introducing your university roommates to your parents
You're sitting around your parents' kitchen table on Sunday afternoon, the smell of pasta sauce filling the room. Your mum has just finished telling embarrassing stories about you to your three roommates, who are laughing like they've known her for years. You turn to your parents and say, 'Sono come una famiglia'—because after two years of shared rent, late-night study sessions, and arguments about whose turn it is to buy milk, they genuinely are.
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Toasting your restaurant kitchen staff after service
It's 11 p.m., the last customers have left, and you're standing in the back of the trattoria with your head chef, sous chef, and two line cooks, sharing a bottle of wine. The head chef raises his glass and says, 'Ragazzi, sono come una famiglia'—acknowledging the sweat, stress, and unspoken coordination that happens every night in that hot, cramped space.
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Explaining your book club to a new acquaintance
You're at a dinner party in Milan, and someone asks what you do on Thursday evenings. You explain that you meet with the same four women to discuss novels, but it's evolved into something deeper—you've supported each other through divorces, job losses, and health scares. You say, 'Sono come una famiglia,' and the listener nods immediately, understanding that this isn't just a hobby.
Related ways to say it in Italian
- Siamo una famiglia. — We are a family.
- More direct and assertive than 'come una famiglia'; used when the bond feels permanent and non-negotiable, especially among long-term colleagues or chosen family groups.
- Li considero famiglia. — I consider them family.
- Slightly more formal and personal; emphasizes your individual perspective rather than a mutual understanding. Common in professional or semi-formal contexts.
- Sono diventati famiglia per me. — They've become family to me.
- Emphasizes the process of becoming close over time; used when reflecting on how a relationship has deepened, often more emotional in tone.
- Sono come fratelli e sorelle. — They're like brothers and sisters to me.
- Plural form emphasizing sibling-like bonds within a group; warmer and more intimate than the singular 'fratelli' alternative, suggesting multiple close relationships.
Notes for English speakers
- English speakers often want to say 'Sono come una famiglia' with stress on 'famiglia,' but in Italian the rhythm sits more evenly across the phrase—the emphasis lands naturally on 'SO-noh' and 'KOH-meh,' not the end. Rushing to stress 'famiglia' makes it sound stilted.
- The phrase uses the indefinite article 'una' (a family), not 'la' (the family), which can feel odd to English speakers who might think 'the family' is more specific. In Italian, 'una famiglia' here means 'a family unit' in the abstract sense—any family, the concept of family—which is why it works for chosen family.
- Regional variation: in southern Italy and Sicily, you might hear 'Sono come famiglia' (without 'una'), which is grammatically looser but very common in speech. It's not wrong, just more colloquial and less formal than the standard version.
The same phrase in other languages
Frequently asked
What's the difference between 'come una famiglia' and 'come fratelli'?
'Come una famiglia' is broader, encompassing the entire family unit. 'Come fratelli' specifically refers to the bond between siblings.
Can I use this for my coworkers?
Yes, if you have a very close and supportive relationship with your colleagues, this phrase perfectly captures that feeling of being like a work family.
Is 'Sono come una famiglia' always casual?
It's most common in casual settings, but the sentiment is so warm that it can be understood even in slightly more formal contexts if the relationship is genuinely close.
